When you hold your newborn for the first time (particularly with your first child) you don’t actually realise just how much they are about to change your world!
The actual hospital stay wasn’t all that bad. She was sleeping. I wasn’t. I’ll blog about my birth experience soon but to cut a long story short, I had a planned caesarean and was in a lot of pain and extremely uncomfortable.
When we arrived home (about 3 days after birth) for the first time, how stupid was I to think, “yep she’s fed and asleep, let’s get to bed!”. Oh, how wrong were we haha #thestruggleisreal
Ever since my little darling entered the world she has not liked sleep much. Kind of like how I used to be (idiot haha).
Tomorrow marks Gracie’s 9 months! Although it has flown, our bodies have still not entirely recovered from all the broken sleep nor has the sleeping even improved all that much from the newborn days.
Here are my top 10 coping mechanisms that have gotten me through so far….
- Family – If you can get the help, definitely take it! There is that saying, it takes a village to raise a child. It’s not easy, particularly when you’re a first time mum, adjusting to mum life. It’s hard. It’s not glamorous and most of the times you’ll be feeling like you’re not good enough. It definitely gets more manageable and newborns are hard work – make the most of it though as it really doesn’t last as long as you think. I am so thankful my husband and my family (especially my mum and mother in law) were always there at the drop of a hatch to lend a hand. I don’t know if I could have gotten through haha the sleep deprivation was real – but I managed to get enough sleep to function and feel slightly human.
- Coffee 🙏 This beautiful and glorious drink has been the holy grail to my sleepless nights and has gotten me through the day (and those long nights). I don’t like having too much caffeine in my system as I’m still breastfeeding, but even one sweet sweet creamy Latte does the trick! Mm… could go for one now haha!
- Netflix/Foxtel – I’m not much of a reader, plus when you’ve had no sleep the last thing you feel like doing is picking up a book to read or just concentrating in general. So, TV or Pay TV is crucial for those nights where your newborn wants to stay up feeding every hour or two, for hours on end! I would set myself up in our entertainment room and binge watch Game of Thrones, Call the Midwife or my beloved Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Plus, always good to have some lollies handy (milkybar was life!).
- Getting fresh air – I found that getting out of the house was so therapeutic! As simple as taking Gracie for a walk in the pram or baby carrier around the block or to the park. It’s important to take the time to go outside and get some fresh air, definitely kept and still keeps me sane!
- Going on a date – Its important to take the time out for you and your partner from being parents now and then, and just being a couple. As beautiful as it is being new parents, try and make the time to go on a date, whether it’s going for a drive, going to your local coffee shop, dressing up for a dinner or to the movies. My husband and I try to make the time often, but definitely every month since Grace was born.
- Having a bubble bath or taking a long shower – I always find that when I now go to shower I’ll spend not 5 mins but 20mins in there. Whether it be shaving your legs or having your hair washed – nothing beats that! Make sure you take time for you and enjoy those little easy luxuries. Run yourself a bubble bath, I love doing that and just relaxing for 20mins. Easy and very therapeutic!
- Having a hobbie – I believe it’s important to have an outlet from being a Mum. It’s nice to do something little for you! Whether that’s taking on study, painting, reading a book, exercising or for me, sewing and making clothes and cooking. I try to do these sorts of things regularly throughout my week, even if it’s just me and Gracie at home. She’s at the age now where I can let her play and not have her be as dependent on me so it’s easier to do a few things for myself!
- Long drives – This is a fave. Mind you, she hates the car unless my husband sits in the back. I don’t mind driving, I find it quite peaceful. She ends up sleeping for about an hour or so, so we just go for a big long drive up mountains, through the city or through the suburbs. I find this allows us to chat a little, clear our mind and gives Grace a good sleep too!
- Playgroup – Playgroups are awesome for Mums! You can be around other mums for some grown up conversation and your babies learn to play and interact with other children whilst being distracted from the usual demanded attention. Plus it tires them out! Score! Haha I started going when my little babe was about 6 or 7 months.
- Seeing friends – You may find that the change is quite dramatic into motherhood. You were once a social butterfly with all the time in the world to catch up with friends and go out partying. You may feel far from socialising but I believe it’s somewhat important to still keep in touch with friends. Obviously, in the first few months it’ll be a challenge just keeping your own shit together, but planning a coffee day, catch up at your or your friends place or even dinner out will make you feel great! I know the first time I caught back up with my group of friends away from my babe I was really excited to have that interaction with them and it is worth the effort (even if you’re feeling too stuffed)!
These things might not be for everybody but they sure have helped me through this crazy, awesome and amazing ride of motherhood.
My little babe is our greatest achievement (I can definitely speak for us both). Life may be completely different now, but I wouldn’t change a thing!
All I can say to new Mummas out there is to embrace the change, love and cherish every minute as time passes so quickly and we have truly been blessed being Gracie’s parents!
See those sleepless nights were worth having this face to stare at!! 😍
This is a throwback, about a few weeks ago, when I went to the Queensland Gallery of Modern Art (GOMA). They have this amazing exhibition, perfect for the kids! How awesome is this fur wall (see below), seems to me to be channeling Dr Seuss!
Gracie was having an absolute ball. Her little face says it all!
I love that as soon as your baby is born into this world, they seem to slow your life down (in a good way). Your no longer caught in the hustle and bustle of life and you are more appreciative of the simple things.
I have always been a city chic at heart having been born in the city, but when I married my husband we moved to what I call far far away from the city (mind you it’s only 40mins away, which still is far). Now, unlike I would pre-babies, have become an adventure seeking and outdoor loving person. It’s truly amazing how you change once you have kids, and I don’t just mean becoming adventurous or anything like that, but how you grow up really. I am totally blessed entering motherhood and enjoying this exciting new beginning of our lives really. It’s made me realise how easily you get caught up in people’s crap, spend money like your rolling in it and sleeping like there is no tomorrow (what is sleep now lol).
On another not so deep and meaningful note, we drove up to Montville and Maleny (where we got married, and have barely been since) for a fun adventure day with Gracie. It’s situated in the Sunshine Coast hinterland and is absolutely beautiful, quaint little old town with coffee shops and cute little shops in the main drag. We spent morning tea at Little May Cafe (best coffee ever) 🙌🏽 and great fresh coconut water juices for the little babes, and proceeded to the waterfalls in Maleny.
It’s awesome how Gracie has made us put in some effort to get out and explore the places which are literally so close to us, and how amazing that we only live 40 mins from here!?! This is now on the regular. It’s amazing what a few hours does to kids, passed out and was sleeping like an angel in the car. It’s funny how you find things to keep them entertained, it’s never ending. Seeing their beautiful little happy faces light up when they are having that much fun makes it SO worth it, it doesn’t take that much effort either. Bloody love this little babe and my bigger babe 😍
My name is Amy and I am terribly new to blogging. I thought hey, my baby (8.5 months) hates sleeping by herself (only on my chest or in my arms) so I’ll use my time to blog rather than sit and watch my real housewives on TV. 😂 But I seriously can’t stop watching these shows, so bad, so good!
I am 24 turning 25, I have been with my husband for 10 years and of that, married for 5. We have a beautiful daughter, Grace, turning 1 this year in May. We have two cats, Tulip and Leo.
I love being a mum and have a totally newfound respect for my mother and Nan!
Although at times I can seriously be stressed out or feel like I’m just a shit mum, even just her smile makes everything better and I wouldn’t have it any other way.